It is that time of year when the weather starts getting cooler and the leaves are changing color ….. the best part of fall though is Halloween!
Being on the board at our local recovery club, my position is all things social. Last night was our annual Halloween Party …. The Monster Mash Chili Bash. I am proud of the parties and activities that have taken place in the last 18 months since I have been planning social activities. Before our club didn’t do much, but now we support many fun activities. I have planned parties, a picnic, and a night watching our local baseball team among other things.
I can not take all the credit, I have a great committee that is ever evolving. I have never been a leader, but this is now all under my direction. I have taken control, doing most of the planning, foot work and gathering of supplies. I am a control freak by nature ….. I want things to be a certain way, and I certainly want to control outcomes. The definition of control: The power to influence or direct peoples behavior or the course of events. Not having control causes me a good amount of anxiety (and not just with party planning).
This last party, I let go of some of the control and let other members take the reins. While some things might not have been done the way I would have done them, it was all ok. I had less work to do and more help and those other members felt valued. That is a win all around. It was a growth opportunity for me to let go of some of that control. I still had anxiety, worried that everything wouldn’t be perfect and that people would not have a good time. You know what … people really don’t expect perfect. I have to know that I can not control whether or not they have fun or not. I have to remember that I can not control the outcome, that I can only do the footwork.
No one really has control, we have to Let Go and Let God!