Winter break is in full swing for my college senior. Mom here, is having mixed emotions. This will be the last time she will be home for any length of time. After graduation, her and her roommates are planning to stay in Chicago. Chicago is a 5 + hour drive, not hateful, but not very close to home. My oldest, is talking about moving from Columbus, Ohio (a 1.5 hour drive from home) to Dallas TX. She has a couple part time jobs in Columbus, but has not settled in with her career. I am proud of my independent girls, but I also love it when they are home.
I will have Kirsten home for a little less than 4 weeks and Allie for 4 days. I will cherish the full house. I don’t know when we will all be home under the same roof again. The empty nest is getting emptier. It is real world time for my girls. I am not sure what that is going to look like. 2020 will be an interesting year, but exciting. There are so many unknowns that we will get to watch unfold for our children.
It is definitely a bag of mixed emotions that I am trying not to dwell on. I will live in the moment and enjoy the Christmas / winter break season with my husband and my girls as well as extended family. This may be the last year for all our family traditions. I can not project what the future will bring so I will not worry or stress about it until next year.
As I have learned in my 12 step program, I will stay in the now, be present, take it one day at a time and have gratitude.
I made it!!!! A few days ago I got to celebrate 5 years of continuous sobriety. It is by no small miracle that I can make this claim. I came into recovery in 2007, with a lot of unwillingness to take the actions required to remain sober. By the Grace of God, I kept coming back to the program of AA after each relapse. I had to continue to pray for the willingness to be willing. After 7 years of half measures, the willingness finally came.
One of the things that changed for me was finally getting honest with myself about my addiction issues, getting my side of the street cleaned up, following direction as well as being of service. After my last relapse …. my sponsor told me to stop the “keep coming back” and just “stay!” Just staying in the program, WOW, what a concept. That one word had a great impact on my current progress in recovery.
I am truly blessed and grateful for the life I have to today and the people in it. The fellowship of AA is my lifeline. I have a wonderful group of women who are my biggest cheerleaders and best friends along with my loving husband.
I got my token last night at my favorite women’s meeting with a lot of my special friends in attendance. That support, friendship and love is what it is all about. The kind words from my sponsor were inspiring, the congratulations from friends, gifts and cards all made me feel good and like I am finally embracing this thing called sober living. There were a few tears from those who have been with me since the beginning. Everyone was truly happy for me and in my corner. I was overwhelmed and humbled by all the celebration for sober me. I do not necessarily like being the center of attention, but it was a wonderful evening with the meeting and a celebratory dinner with 12 close friends from my tribe.
On this day I am happy and grateful to be able to say I am in recovery. Life is good, I hope and pray I can continue on this path.