I had a wonderful care team made up of my primary care doctor, my psychologist and my chiropractor. Each one of these people were essential in helping me deal with my Ulcerative Colitis, depression/anxiety and in helping me to get sober. They were an important part of my life and making sure I continued to live.
My primary doctor worked really hard in trying to control my Xanax intake and my obsession with self harm. He referred my to my GI doctor who in return referred me to the Cleveland Clinic for colon removal surgery. He took good care of me after that surgery and took my phone calls at all hours. This physician really cared about me, was a family friend and went the extra mile to ensure my safety and health. He retired (2015)
My therapist worked with my doctor. It was her who called him and said I needed treatment for the addiction to benzo drugs. My therapist helped with so many mental challenges including my diagnosed clinical depression and general anxiety disorder as well as the addiction / alcoholism and the self harm. She knew me most times better than I knew myself. I always told her I would never let her retire because I needed her in so many ways. She retired (2018).
My chiropractor who became a friend was a great help during my illness. When I could not eat due to the effects of the Ulcerative Colitis she delivered supplements to my home. When my mental health started getting wacky she referred me to the local psychologist who became my therapist for 15 years. She has helped me through thick and thin. It was my friend and chiropractor who I went to when I was told I had an addiction issue from my therapist to ask her thoughts and what I should do regarding going to treatment. It was her who took me to my first AA meeting. She helped me heal from my car accident. She has taken care of me and my girls and has been a great asset to our health. Today was our last appointment …. she is retiring.
The above care team was the best and they all went far above the call of duty to care for me. I don’t know what I would have done or where I would be without them. Probably not alive. Even though I have grown and have a handle on my mental health for the most part and little problems with the no colon / Jpouch I feel like I am now left to my own devices. I don’t do well with change and things have changed greatly and life continues to move on.
I have a new therapist who I can really connect with who I saw on occasion in past. It is a good fit and she is very helpful to me. She is always there to return a phone call at all hours and to talk me down no matter what the problem. I have a new physician, I like her, but she doesn’t know me like my original doctor or my (real) history. Medicine has changed and it is almost impossible to get an appointment when needed. I will try the new chiropractor at the office, but it won’t be the same. I retired so I can not complain when others do the same especially since they are older than I.
So really I have to put my big girl pants back on and embrace the change. I do miss those from my original care team but it has been years since my surgery, my mental health diagnosis, and addiction. They have all moved on and maybe I need to do the same.
Some of the gloominess lingers, but you would not know it. It is a feeling way down deep inside of me. I am certainly not as bad off as I was just a few weeks ago, maybe the med change and therapy has helped …. I don’t know. I have an appointment with my therapist tomorrow and a follow up with the Dr. about the meds. Not sure what to say or do.
It is hard though to be too gloomy, I just got home from a week of warm sunshine and beaches in Siesta Key. It was good to get away with Steve. My Mom and her husband, one brother and sis in law and my 3 year old niece were also there. Caroline really made the trip more enjoyable and exciting … everything is exciting to a 3 year old. She is such a good girl and a lot of fun. Some of the time though all the family and activity was just too much for me to handle. I did get an afternoon alone while everyone else went off on an adventure. It was much needed and helpful, although I could have used more.
I didn’t really feel like drinking while I was away. I was around a lot of alcohol. My Mom had about a dozen bottles of wine and alcohol just sitting on the counter. It would have been easy to have a slip. Who doesn’t want to have drink on the beach? I miss it and I don’t miss it. It is hard to explain.
I really miss my routine and my recovery peeps when I am away. I am such a creature of habit and a homebody. Though I do enjoy getting away on occasion, I mostly like being at home. I did not go to any recovery meetings last week and that makes me a little antsy. We got home yesterday and I have already been to 2 meetings to make up for lost time.
So will the gloominess continue to linger or is a new day dawning on my funky feelings. I guess only time will tell. Today though I can find the gratitude and good and that is progress!
It has been almost a month since I wrote about being gloomy, well that gloomy turned in to full blown depression. The definition of depression “feelings of severe despondency and dejection” …. I can’t explain why or how, but that self-doubt is ever present. Feelings of misery, unhappiness, melancholy, loss of joy and energy is just the tip of the iceberg. I can minimize the symptoms and act as if all is well …. usually, but that takes a lot of energy and that energy is hard to come by.
I have seen my doctor who doubled the dose of my antidepressant and have been talking often to my therapist. I have clued few others in on my despair and even fewer on the darkness. I had to take a leave from the gym, even though I know work-outs help with the endorphins and is a good thing, I haven’t been to my volunteer “job” in weeks or really gone out with friends since last time I wrote. I have no desire.
The one thing I am doing consistently is going to AA meetings. I have realized to drink or use would only make this thing much worse than it is. I am reaching out to my sponsor who has been very helpful with little kind words, advice and love. I have tried working with my sponsees to get out of myself, it works maybe a little bit, but it is mostly annoying. I am doing what I can in that area. The AA club is where I feel the most comfortable right now, being with my peeps whether I participate in the meeting or not is just where I feel most secure and can just be.
My husband is trying to be understanding and comforting, but he doesn’t really understand the tremendous amount of energy it takes to just exist. He tries, but also worries because last time I went down this path it was really ugly. I get it and am trying to be understanding of where he is coming from. I have forced myself to go out more than once if just out to dinner or the grocery store.
I don’t know if it is hormones, the gloomy weather or just my mood cycling around in a bad way, but whatever the case depression is no joke.
Is there light at the end of the tunnel?